Families

Why is it that they can be so nasty instead of loving like they are supposed to be? When my dad called down yesterday he slipped me to tescos to get ink for my printer as i was using it to do things for him and my ink ran out well me being me i bought the wrong one so he slipped me back again to get the right one lucky its only 5mins drive down the road if that lol. Well when i was out my step mum was here wwith Donny and they were having a chat which i was told about in the early hours of this morning so for those of you that dont know me that well i guess you are going to learn a lot more about me when you read what i have to say.
When i was 6 my mum died of breast cancer well its started in her breast and then quickly spread through her whole body including her brain not even a mastectomy helped she was 31 and she was gone my dad was fantastic he cared for her all the way through she never went into hospital and died quietly at our home.While my dad was caring for my mum my mums mum and dad were taking care of us even though me and my younger sister could see out mum and dad as much as possible after my mum died my dad was so grief stricken and exhausted it took him a while to get over the fact that my mum had gone he moved in with us for a while with my mums parents and then the council moved him down next door were we could all be together. My sister and i used to spend days and nights at both houses but we did see more of our grand parents when my dad was working he was always there though everyday. I always was grateful for my grand parents being there for me and my sister but i guess for a long time i was blind to the type for person my gran was even though i used to hear my auntie and my dad spaeking of the things that she had done and said.

It wasnt until 2 years ago that i finally woke up to it all she had never liked my choice in Donny as a boyfriend and had tried on several oocasions to cause trouble between us and i didnt stop when i moved out and in with him when i found out i was expecting our first child she tokd me to "get rid of it" the day i got married i arrived home to find a letter telling me i was making the biggest mistake of my life she did not see Jake until he has 5 months old and im starting to wonder if i ever should of let her be a part of my boys lifes., When i found out i was expecting Leon she again said "well you know what to do" and i was amazed we were married we had Jake already and we had been together for 5 years and she still wasnt getting the message. My grand father then offered to pay for Donny to have a vasectomy as he didnt want me having anymore of his children. It wasnt long after that my grandfather passed away i was ther at the hospital at the bed side when he went after that my gran started getting worse. She would phone 5 or 6 times a day especially when she knew we would be busy with the children she would call down and cause trouble she told me at my sisters wedding which was a year after Leon was born that i was an imbaressment in my size 16 suit because i was so big she would constantly mock my weight im confortable the way am but it would leave me feeling horrible Donny hated the way she always put down everything even though i was constalty heling her out ect but he would leave me as i though i needed to do this as she was there when my mum died for me.

Well two years ago i went down there just after Leons birthday wow it will be 3 years really soon biy time goes fast. Leon wanted to say thankyou for his birthday gift Jake was at school as they were in different schools then someone phoned the house and it was my sister me and my sister dont get along but thats a whole different story well anyway she picked up the phone and walked into the other room and was giving my address out over the phone i went mad i walked Donny back to the car as his eyes were bad then too and walked back to tell her what i though about what she had just done Leon was there seen and heard all that was the last time i have steped foot in that house. She decided to go around telling people that Donny had done it screamed and shouted at her it was all lies and i dont understand why she is doing it at all.

Well my step mum told Donny yesterday that she has been telling people we wont let the boys see her (funny Leons girlfriend lives in the same street and he just walks past the house rather than go in and see her) and that Donny is refusing to let me see her yeah right my boys have thier own minds and what they do is thier choice not mine and who i do or dont see or talk to is mine too i am strong minded and those of you who know me know i tend to speak fisrst and think after LOL i just dont see why she could be so nasty instead of loving like grandmas are supposed to be she did this not us why cant she see what she has done wrong? doesnt she realise this will make things worse not better? i hope i dont have to see her for a while (which will be hard living next door to my dad) i just dont know why she is trying so hard to brake my family apart.